January sucks

January sucks

I’m going to say what everyone’s thinking.

Shangela should have won All Stars 3.

January is hard! The magic and sparkle of Christmas might have infected us from mid-November, but once the tree is down and the chill isn’t Jack Frost nipping at your nose anymore, we’re all bloody miserable. The first day back at work dragged, and come quarter past five, we all rushed out of the office to get back home. Dark nights, long days and having no money isn’t the nicest place to be for anyone, but when you have a mental health issue, it’s really fucking crap.

I’ve always loved the colder weather and been anti-summer, but this year there’s something enticing about the warmer weather and brighter days. My mum nearly fainted when I told her that I was done with winter, and Tom was sure he was in some kind of Invasion of the Body Snatchers scenario. So, I’m going to blame my sudden turn of feeling on January.

Come boxing day I was ready to hide under my duvet and sleep for a million years, but mamma didn’t raise no bitch, so I decided to do my best to fight against the bastard that is January.  We might only be a few days in, but I’ve got some bizarre new positive attitude that is helping me through and making me feel a lot better about the days to come. So, how do you combat the post-Christmas blues I hear absolutely none of you asking?

Plan ahead

Bit of a condescending one this one, I know. But, we’re all broke after the festive period and because January is the longest year ever, payday seems like it’s never going to come. Before you splash your cash at Christmas, make sure you book or buy something for yourself. Not only will you have something to look forward to, but it’s also in the name of self-care (but this is coming from the girl who will eat a pound of cheese in the name of self-care so should you really listen to me?).

Tom and I booked tickets to see Mary Poppin’s returns, planned meals together and put a bit of money aside so that we weren’t sitting at home playing ‘who can annoy the other person more’. Tom always wins that one.

Go outside

HA, HA HA, HA HA HA did you ever think you would hear me recommend exercise to anyone? After work it’s impossible to step outside without contracting hypothermia, but during the day, even if it’s just for twenty minutes, go for a little walk. You’ll actually feel like you’ve achieved something and will make you feel tonnes better if you ate your body weight in chocolate over Christmas like I did. Venture out on the weekend – there are plenty of lovely spaces that are free to wander round, and you can drag along your family members for the fun.

Loch Lomond on a cloudy day

Be excited about the little things

Many people book holidays, weddings (me) or events way in advance – it’s never too early to look forward to them! You may or may not (lol) have heard me mention that I’m getting married this October, and I’m already buzzin’. I have my hen do, birthdays, holidays, concerts and even Hallowe’en to look forward to. Just remember, those things you planned are coming up soon and it’s okay to feel excited about them! And if anyone tells you otherwise, hit them with a wet fish.

Photo of the National Scotland Museum

Look inwards

This might sound like the cheesiest of all cheesy things I’ve ever said, but maybe it’s time to do a bit of self-reflection. Ask yourself what it is that’s making you sad and write down ways you can help tackle them. If it’s waking up to the dark, then investing in a S.A.D lamp might be an idea. If it’s feeling sluggish after over-indulging, try some new, healthier recipes. Recently Tom and I tried Hello Fresh, which I reviewed here and would recommend to anyone.

Mixed recipes on a black table

January isn’t for everyone

There’re countless memes about ‘New Year New Me’ bullshit, but if you feel like January is the start of a fresh chapter for you, darling just own it. If you see the New Year as just ‘another day’, then that’s okay too! Please don’t ever feel pressure to change yourself or buy into diets or feel like 2019 is going to be ‘your year’. Do whatever feels right for you and screw the rest.

If you’ve got any tips or advice, feel free to share them below – I love having a good chinwag.

See ya x

Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all - Helen KEller

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15 Comments

  1. Paul Hannah January 6, 2019 / 8:20 pm

    …and in the darkest, coldest, wettest days of winter there is the inevitability that bulbs will shortly bloom and spring will arrive 😊

    • nicoleparkes
      Author
      January 6, 2019 / 8:24 pm

      One of my favourite quotes is “I know beyond the clouds the sun is shining”, got to keep going! ❤️

  2. Sim @ Sim's Life January 7, 2019 / 7:49 pm

    Lots for you to look forward to this year – lots of exciting things to plan! 🙂
    I am the total opposite of you, I live for Summer and the warmer weather!x

    • nicoleparkes
      Author
      January 7, 2019 / 7:50 pm

      Normally that’s me but I’m so looking forward to being warm for once! X

  3. Jen January 7, 2019 / 7:50 pm

    I love this, such great tips too! It will soon be summer 🙂

    • nicoleparkes
      Author
      January 7, 2019 / 7:51 pm

      Thanks Jen! I can’t wait x

  4. Lyd January 7, 2019 / 11:18 pm

    You are totally a girl after my own heart! I’m a firm believer in always having something to look forward to and appreciating the little things. I’m lucky that we have 2 family birthdays to bring a bit of excitement, but other than that the cold, grey days don’t appeal at all.

    • Nic
      Author
      January 8, 2019 / 8:56 pm

      They’re rubbish aren’t they Lyd? We will have to organise a blogger meet up soon, once we all have a bit of money – something more to look forward to!

  5. Bexa January 8, 2019 / 8:53 pm

    This is such a great post, I love love love the line: ‘Do whatever feels right for you and screw the rest’. That’s so true, January is such a high pressured month to make it awesome but sometimes just getting through it is enough. Going outside is such good advice, I know I always feel much better after I get some fresh air, listen to music and go for a walk. Thanks for sharing your suggestions ❤ xx

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

    • nicoleparkes
      Author
      January 8, 2019 / 8:54 pm

      Thank you! You have to make sure you’re putting your own sanity first in January – it’s too damn long! If you have any tips please feel free to share 😍❤️

  6. Sophie Wentworth January 8, 2019 / 9:01 pm

    Great post, but I’m the total opposite. I love winter, it’s my favourite season. And while I’m not a fan of ‘new year, new me’, I do really like the positive energy that comes to the table at this time of year. My January is dragging a little, but I’m fairly certain that’s because I’ve been ill. I’m a runner but I can’t stand being outside right now, it’s just too cold 🙈 x

    Sophie
    http://www.glowsteady.co.uk

    • nicoleparkes
      Author
      January 8, 2019 / 9:02 pm

      You couldn’t even catch me standing in this cold for more than five minutes 😰 I don’t know what’s wrong with me – normally I’m the same as you! I’m glad you feel so positive, that makes me happy ❤️ I hope you feel better soon, Sophie x

  7. Jenny in Neverland January 8, 2019 / 10:40 pm

    Great post! January and the New Year can bring up a lot of different emotions for people. I usually love the NY and I LOVE Winter and the cold weather but this January has been really difficult so far so I just can’t wait for it to be over tbh. Planning ahead and focusing on the little things is so important x

  8. Ruxandra January 17, 2019 / 8:11 pm

    I am still emjoying the cold weather, i would just be happier if it just stopped raining 😭 but getting over this by planning more travels 😂

    • nicoleparkes
      Author
      January 18, 2019 / 4:23 pm

      I normally enjoy the cold, but this winter I’m craving that warmer weather! Where are you heading off to this year then? 🙂

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