In which I plan a wedding

Those who know me (and I’m guessing most of you do – hi mum!), know that next Hallowe’en I’m marrying the man of my dreams. Last December my boy Tommo asked me if I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. After making him lip sync for his life I deliberated with the judges and decided it would be a big fat yes from me.

I’ve always been a secret romantic and after celebrating with my closest family and friends, I couldn’t wait to jump right in. However, most advice on the internet either wasn’t helpful or applicable to me and Tom who decided we wanted a small ceremony.

There is still quite a while left to go until the big day, but here are some handy tips if, like me, you didn’t have the first clue where to start when it comes to wedding planning.

Don’t put your eggs in one basket

I know, it is such a cliche, but don’t expect your dream wedding to come true unless you find a magic money tree. We went from wanting to get married at St. Mawes Castle, to organising a small affair at Loch Lomond, to finally deciding on the beautiful York Registry Office.

Both Tom and I knew exactly what we wanted which was a casual, small wedding with no more than twenty-five people. Based on this, we weren’t prepared to spend £3,000 on hiring a venue for the ceremony or function afterwards, which of course influenced our decision.

Don’t feel pressured

Tom and I are lucky in that we’re very in sync with each other. Mushy, I know, I’m sorry. We were also lucky that we had a while to shop around and find the best deals. There may be pressure from family, friends or even ‘societal expectations’ (oo check me using big phrases) but honey, you just do you. There are months left until our wedding, but we’ve sorted most of the big things out including invitations, dress and function room.

Side brag: Anyone who has been to York will know what the House of Trembling madness is, and their function room is free to hire, you just pay for food and drink! Winner!

Remember – this is your day!

The only people that truly matter on your wedding day are you and your future spouse. Again, you might feel pressure from other people, but it is important to remember that your wedding is yours and yours alone. Tom and I are going against many traditions, for example he is taking my surname, Parkes. This, as you can imagine, has had mixed reviews, but screw ’em.

My grandmother is a very wise woman and often comes up with profound proverbs that rival Confucius. I call on one of her favourite sayings when it comes to anyone who doesn’t support your wedding choices: “Don’t let the bastards get you down.” Thanks for that gran.

Wedding Fever

I hope you feel like I haven’t rambled, but then again, it’s your own fault for reading this far if you’ve hated every minute of this blog. I’m probably going to be writing more updates about our wedding, so stay tuned! I’ll leave you with a cute pic of me an the boy because love and whatnot x

See ya x



  1. Lyd November 26, 2018 / 9:21 pm

    I giggled at ‘made him lip sync for his life’! Love that he is taking your surname, I know women keeping their surnames is becoming much more common but I still don’t hear much of men taking them, good on him!

    • nicoleparkes November 28, 2018 / 11:18 am

      He’s a cutie! x

  2. Bec Jones November 26, 2018 / 10:49 pm

    I agree 100% what you’ve written Nic – and you and Tom have the wedding you want – and shout out if you want to know anything about wedding planning – as you know we had a most unconventional wedding last year aged 50 and 56 🙂
    And you know my view on name changes – I kept mine 🙂

  3. nicoleparkes November 28, 2018 / 11:18 am

    Thank you, I may just take you up on that offer! 🙂

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